Social and Emotional Intelligence has been my focus for as long as I can remember. Academically I got good grades, but when it came to dealing with the social side of at school I found it so much more interesting, challenging and rewarding. I loved making friends, navigating the cliches and tribes and dealing with the ups and downs of relationships.
Fast forward to my career in professional and leadership development today, and whether it was helping introverted engineers develop soft skills, helping shy entrepreneurs network, or coaching C-Level executives to communicate with heart and passion, it was all tied back to these 26 skills that dramatically change your life once you conscientiously begin to work on them.
I live, eat, and breathe Social and Emotional Intelligence(SEI) and although it has been around academically since the early 1990’s (actually references to it much earlier than that and really since the dawn of man), it is still kind of a mystery to the average...
“When was the last time you actually said to someone’s face, I don’t want to be friends with you anymore”? I overheard this while sitting in a local coffee shop working. It was two friends in their early 40’s talking about friendship.
She posed a good question.
In fact, I wondered when was the last time I said that? Technology makes it easy to “unfriend”, “block”, “unfollow” those whom you deem unworthy of friendship, and while it is easy, it isn’t forcing us to have those difficult conversations about our feelings and why we feel that way and talking about it and truly feeling it.
So to my surprise, I just saw a new app that is supposed to foster higher levels of employee engagement. This app by its description, “. . . helps you in discovering your strengths and areas for improvement by receiving honest feedback from your employees and your friends in a private manner.”
In theory great idea, it runs...
Yu had ambition. He wanted to be the guy at the top, running the show. Yu was a two-time doctorate from a Top University in Machine Learning. He basically taught machines to think!
He was easily one of the smartest guys I ever met. His academic intelligence was never in question. He was at the top of his game in his work in the field of this cutting-edge technology.
But, he had one BIG problem. He was stuck. He'd been in his position for a long time and felt he had outgrown it. He could easily manage his projects, the teams and the department with his incredible intelligence. But, Yu didn't feel he was growing anymore and craved upward mobility.
He was missing something... a BIG something, a HUGE something. His academic superiority and gift always made him the smartest person in the room, but his lack of emotional intelligence (social and emotional awareness) made him difficult to talk with.
This was noted when he told me that he spent hundreds of hours studying how to be better...
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