I was talking to a friend on the phone and he was complaining about a coveted award he recently received. And although I was not jealous I just felt sick about it. Why and how could an award that is nationally recognized be seen as a pain, and so negative? And why did my friend see it as a negative thing?
We can say and even feel grateful for promotions, raises, awards and talk about them. More importantly is how we decide to talk about them, and the words and energy we put behind them.
Many people might think it is bragging and go the opposite way and go “Oh I got a raise” :( in a sarcastic and yes I did it a frowny face way. But that can be insensitive to the person who wanted the raise, award or praise.
Gratitude comes out in our body language, words choice, the decisions we make, and the tone of our words.
It’s ok to feel happy about something you worked hard on and for.
And it is exciting to celebrate with your friends so to highlight your awards here are some...
Over the course of a couple years, I sat down with 300+ individuals, from students to CEOs, to talk to them about their goals.
During these interviews, we talked about their perceived issues, why they felt the way they did, their obstacles, and why their goals were important. These interviews wholeheartedly confirmed something I had known my whole life; no matter where we are in life, or how good or bad we think we have it, we all face challenges.
Those who sat down with me were the brave few that were actually ready (or almost ready) to do something about it.
We talked about the feeling of not being heard, what it would feel like to really have people listen to you and how that would change the environment they work or live in.
With each subsequent question, my goal was to dig deeper and get to the fundamental why? Why was it important to be heard? Why was it important to be confident speaking in front of x? I asked 'why' 5 times, and with each of those why's they had to dig...
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