Is Your Lack of Gratitude Turning People Off?

I was talking to a friend on the phone and he was complaining about a coveted award he recently received. And although I was not jealous I just felt sick about it. Why and how could an award that is nationally recognized be seen as a pain, and so negative? And why did my friend see it as a negative thing?

We can say and even feel grateful for promotions, raises, awards and talk about them. More importantly is how we decide to talk about them, and the words and energy we put behind them.

Many people might think it is bragging and go the opposite way and go “Oh I got a raise” :( in a sarcastic and yes I did it a frowny face way. But that can be insensitive to the person who wanted the raise, award or praise.

Gratitude comes out in our body language, words choice, the decisions we make, and the tone of our words.

It’s ok to feel happy about something you worked hard on and for.

And it is exciting to celebrate with your friends so to highlight your awards here are some easy guidelines you can use;

  1. Show genuine gratitude and humility when talking about the award. Saying something like “I feel honored they recognized my hard work” is different than “Yea I totally deserve it.” You probably do deserve it but coming across as entitled turns people off. They won’t say it to your face but they may say it to someone else in rolled eyes or a snide comment.
  2. Acknowledge the hardships leading up to the award - it may not have happened overnight but you earned it. “Earning” it means there were tough times leading up to it. People are interested to learn how you got over those tough times, what was your mindset, how did you do it? That is how we encourage and inspire one another to work better and to their greater personal attention.
  3. Don’t put people down. - Yes, you got the award or recognition but you don’t have to rub it in anyone’s face. In fact, it is endearing and role-modelly (a word for bringing people together) when you acknowledge other people’s hard work and how you admire them. After all, if you didn’t get the recognition you would want them to acknowledge you and your hard work.
  4. Use it as full to encourage others and create healthy competition and harmony. One might ask how do you do that? It starts with you and your attitude. If you continually encourage people to do the best and continue to learn, teach and coach them you will bring out their inner greatness.

What are other instances of lack of gratitude that you notice?


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